My #1 priority is to be a present, loving, and supportive father to Luke, Jack, and Lyla. My primary responsibility is to raise well-adjusted, self-aware, and confident children that grow up to have high character and integrity, and who have developed the skill sets...

9 years ago a good friend of mine, who is an unparalleled basketball talent evaluator, asked me to do him a favor. He asked me to come down to Charlotte to train his buddy's son (an unranked sophomore in high school at the time). He respectfully said, 'the kid is not...

The average male life expectancy in the United States is 79 years old. I’m 42, so statistically I’m already in the second half of my life. The perceived speed at which the first half flew by solidifies the fact that time is, without question, my most precious...

James Robinson is the toughest player I’ve ever coached. While he was certainly tough physically, it was his mental toughness that was so extraordinary. He blocked out distractions. He ignored opposing fans. He smiled at blatant missed calls by the referee. If you...

“Alan, how did you transition into becoming a professional speaker?” I get that question multiple times per week. Here is exactly what I did: Step 1: I decided. Step 2: I acknowledged that becoming a paid/professional speaker has 3 primary pillars; content, delivery,...

There are only two things in this world that we have 100% control over, 100% of the time: Our effort Our attitude. Coming to this epiphany was a tough pill for me to swallow, as I’ve always skewed a tad toward being a control freak! But it’s true. Our own effort and...

Millennials view the world differently than previous generations, Including mine, and I ain’t that old! Building connections and effectively communicating with millennials requires a few subtle nuances. Generally speaking, they get bored quicker, want to know the...

Here are 36 impactful lessons I teach and (cough, cough) model my kiddos on a daily basis. Oh and these apply to adults as well: Serve others without expecting anything in return. Have focus on what you really want. If you chase two rabbits, they will both get away....

16 Lessons from a De-Motivational Speaker   Chill out and relax. You only get one life, so why waste it working so hard? Hard work is exhausting and overrated. Never ask for help. Seriously. It’s a sign of weakness. If you can’t do something, you need to lie...

I’m so thankful that I can call DeMatha’s Mike Jones, a friend and mentor. Working for him for 6 years (2010-16) was incredibly impactful for me. He is as good as any coach/leader I’ve been around. Coach Jones took over for Morgan Wootten in 2002. At the time of his...