The world is a scary place…right now, more than ever.
But the world is also an amazing place… full of kindness, compassion and love. You just have to look for it.
And that’s what I’m choosing to do during these uncertain times. I’m choosing to look for and focus on the good stuff.
I’m certainly aware of the bad stuff… but I’m working hard to not let it occupy my mind, my thoughts, my attitude and my heart. I’m not going to let it callous me.
Why? Because I believe like my father’s favorite apparel brand believes, ‘Life is Good.’
Seriously though, what choice do I have? Do I really want to go through life feeling scared, anxious, cynical and sad? Do I want to put that energy out into the world? Do I want to model that for my children?
But it’s not easy. Trust me, I can empathize. Fighting off incessant negative thoughts is very challenging.
If the past few weeks have reinforced anything — it’s that life is short. We need to appreciate every minute. Even 80 years goes by quickly. Our lives are like an hour glass… and we have no clue how much ‘sand is at the top.’
And how we live is determined by how we think. We need to constantly reframe and recalibrate our perspective. We need to focus on the good stuff.
Not in a fairy tale kinda way. In a realistic way.
Negative thoughts are normal. You can’t stop them if you try. But you don’t have to let them consume you. That is dangerous.
Negative thinking can drain our energy, undermine our self-confidence and make us constantly irritated (which affects our relationships).
Negative thinking can be a mental prison.
But you have the keys to get out!
With heightened self-awareness, mindfulness and giving yourself some grace… you can choose to shift your negative thoughts to much more positive ones.
And this daily shift makes me think of the ‘Two Wolves’ fable:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil — he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good — he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
The same fight is going on inside you — and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Our thoughts and our perspective are in a constant tug-of-war. And the recent pandemic gives the negative side some serious momentum. So we must consciously intervene.
You can fight back! You can stop your negative thoughts from being your worst enemy.
You can choose to empower the good thoughts.
You can choose an ‘attitude of gratitude’ and focus on thoughts that give you peace and positivity.
And now, more than ever, I urge you to do that.
Bad things will continue to happen. You don’t control that. But you do control how you deal with them, respond to them and cope with them. And you choose how you treat those around you — from loved ones to strangers.
You can make the world a better place, for yourself and everyone around you, if you intentionally feed the Good Wolf.